Yes! Remember that each day is a chance for a new beginning to start new habits. Habits that support your self-care plan, honor your values and build your boundaries. Remember YOU are in control of your life by choosing, EACH choice is either building a future you love or a future that will be the same as your past. You guys are doing great-when you fall down GET back up and trust yourself that you can start again. Remember to forgive yourself and love yourself.

Wow, it is that simple! Hip, hip hooray! (smile) Lesson for the evening, quit trying to make things harder than they seem! Sometimes the answser is just right in front you!

For those of you wondering who in the heck is Hilda...I'm the virtual student participating via NYC where I'm currently working. I was not fortunate to land work in Phoenix and instead found some here. Not the place where I want to be....but the need to earn a paycheck is larger than my personal needs to be in sunny CG!

But in case my words haven't been shared at your meetings, I want to make sure that you all know that in each of your comments and Dena's wisdom has all been keeping me sane on the East coast. So thank you all for that! I was making daily goals and once I got back here I kind of lost track of them due to work....so today I started making my goals again. And tomorrow I'm setting aside time for me and me only to do what I need to do to make me feel like I achieved my goals!

Lastly, I want to remind you about the important part of values to your future. If you don't know your values (the things that you stand for most) then goal setting will be like shooting in the dark. If you know that your values are love, family and inspiration, then you can plan your goals in alignment to those values. When people say that they are living a life they love or a life of purpose it's because what they are DOING is aligned to their VALUES, which is very fulfilling. And just the opposite, when people say they are unhappy or unfulfilled it's because they don't know their values (hence didn't create a future with their values in mind) or they forgotten the importance of their values to their future/goals. Your future is going to turn out how you create, so create it with love and aligned to your values!

So everyone has had a few days since our last session: Pursuing Your Passions! In that session we talked more about the process of goal setting and the mindset for goal setting. One thing I deeply believe in is clearing yourself OFTEN. This means getting present to your highest self! Here's the 'clearing' I wrote for the last session:
Clearing:
Sit down and relax. Let all the stress, worries, resentments and conflicts drain out of your body. Watch them flow away from you. breath in deeply. Feel your heart expanding and glowing with beauty and love. Allow your greater, higher self be present today. Release your past and any constraining or limited beliefs around your abilities to achieve. Forgive yourself and all others that told you that you couldn't succeed at something. Allow your own devine light shine and know that when you were born you became deserving in that moment and that love, health, wealth, mind, body and spirit fulfillment is now waiting for you. Now release ANY limiting beliefs that have kept you stuck, emotionally, physically, financially, or spiritually. All barriers to my full expression and enjoyment of life are now dissolved. The world is waiting for me to shine, to love, to live. I love giving and I love receiving. The process of receiving starts with being (your mindset) and now your mindset is ready to receive your plans for your goals and passions.

Starting over again! I would say I have let a few set backs get in the way of staying focused on my goals the last few weeks. So here I go once again. I know it is going to get better as long as I stick to my plan and revise as necessary when new obstacles pop up.

I had some bad days this month, I found out I have a bleeding ulcer and just when I thought I was getting my stress under control. But I also found out that my crying jags and anxious moments are probably from menopause. I am using some hormones, very carefully with my wonderful doctors' supervision and I feel alot better. (If anyone is struggling with all that stuff and needs a great doc let me know I have her number.) I still feel like I am in my 20's til I look in the mirror and then I wonder who is that?
After weeks of remodeling our bathrooms and having to plead my case to my husband that, yes, this is the way I want it; yes, that is the color I want, we are finally done. So last Saturday morning we took off for a day trip we packed a bag just in case we were having too good a time and decided to stay the night. So we headed north and ended up staying in a B&B, No TV, No internet, No cell phone service. We ended up going to a lodge for dinner and having a couple of drinks while watching a jazz band,it was some very nice couple time. And when we got to our room I discovered something about my husband whom I have known for more than 10 years, he plays chess and is teaching me now. Now before you think, how romantic, no it wasn't like that I wish I could say he swept me off no we just both needed to get away from the daily grind. Away from the phone where when it rings its either my mom needing something or my youngest daughter calling to ask for money or my other daughter hoping I want to move back to Indiana because she misses me,and it all makes me feel guilty because I can't fix everything.
Through this program I have learned I have to take care of myself no one else can & what works for me might not work for others but I have to hold myself accountable because I cannot complain about what is wrong if I am not doing something to make ME better. Positive thinking and actions make for positive results. I have also been scheduling my time and spending it wisely. I still have days when I wonder - where did the time go but I am more conscious of my time and don't spend it on things that don't serve me or make me productive. I am lucky to be in this group with some pretty amazing women. I love working at LifeStyles Magazine what a class act and how remarkable these ladies are, I am so glad to be in their company!

Re Dena's assignment of mid-August: the idea of focused, calm prep for the next day is effective.The idea has evolved for me so that I do as much prep as I can for tomorrow...including me time.. the night before.Example: Arlene and I are in Sue Conn-Hood's 7:15a fitball class. Putting the fitball, my Yoga mats and my workout bag in the car the night before sure does de-stress the early morning. Don't have to go find anything-- just get in the car and drive to class. I'd only been doing it all in the early am for two years!

Again, the homework. my family and I do dine at the same time every night and have for some time--We just don't do it in the same room. It's hard to compete with NCIS and Bones reruns. I've specifically planned family dinners a couple of times and there was good, if carefully neutral,conversation.

Chinese take-out seems to get everybody to the table.

I just wanted to check in with you guys to see how your homework went with being more conscience of your time? How did you do with the homework (below)? What were your wins or nonwins from doing it? Did you see how your 'being' often drove your 'actions' which drove your 'results'? If you want different results you've got to start with shifting your way of being first. Please post your thoughts here about any insights you had about organization and time management.

Today's session was on time management and organization:

Remember that your 'way of being' has a lot to do with how organized you are. If you are being specific, or being organized or being a planner then you will be leading a more clear and powerful day verses if you are being crazed, or being frantic or being vague. So watch how you are being and therefor watch your results rise!

One thing that many people do is overwhelm their to-do list. So I gave the participants a simplified to-do list that you can find on my page (under Lifestyle Experts on this website). This way you start each day off with a clear plan and you play for 100% accomplishment.

The whole game is to create a life you love, cut out everything that doesn't serve (compliment) your life and your goals. Don't waste time and don't give your time away. Manage yourself and your time to accomplish your goals and be 100% each day.

The homework for today was created to help you stay present, BE committed, and manage your time in a worth while manner:
1. For 7 days eat dinner as a family and ask your family to share their high and their low of their day
2. For 7 days spend 10 minutes a night preparing for the next day (this is specifically for DOING anything that needs to be done)
3. For 7 days spend 7-10 minutes each morning just on preparing for your day (this is specifically for the BEING (mindsetting for the day---mentally/spiritually) - this can be in your own way, whether it's journal about the goals of the day, meditating, praying, etc.

If you ever want to read my articles/blogs on boundaries it will give you a refresher on how important boundaries are to organizing your life. Also a couple downloadable worksheets (bottom right corner) will help too:
http://www.chatchewandchocolate.com/experts/18/list/

I am looking forward to out next 10 10's meeting. The last was refreshing and a lot of great info but I did not put any of it into action. Now I am feeling a bit overwhelmed.

At our 10 10's meeting on Sunday we talked about things that make us stress and it was nice to find out that, I am not alone when it comes to meeting new people and entering new situations how I get very insecure and uncomfortable. I really thought it was just me, how I can only think of how my thighs are too big or I have a wrinkle or I don't have the latest fashion and never consider how other people may feel the same way. Ladies we are all in this together we have to stick together and support our comrades together we can change our world.

A little tip about Be Do Have. BE your highest self, DO the actions consistent to that highest self, and HAVE results that are consistent with your goals. It all starts with your way of being FIRST. BE committed, BE powerful, BE greatness, BE accountable....the rest will follow! When you listen to your greatness it will always steer you right. It's when you listen to your smallness that gets you in trouble (your smallness always wants instant gratification which usually diverts you from your bigger goal). Let your greatness shine!

Remember to take BABY steps. If eating and movement (some kind of exercise) is the priority this week, then just make tiny milestones around those two goals. It's easy to get ahead of yourself. But the other topics (that we will cover in this program are in the future, so don't worry about those now). Focus on being your word, making better choices and baby steps around eating and exercise. You are doing great! Don't forget that each moment is a new beginning, so if you 'mess up' the next moment is a chance to start over and get recommitted to your word. Prepare your weekend to have healthy choices, healthy food choices and some time to MOVE!

The last post was from me Jodi I had some difficulties with the settings!

Trying to change so many areas of my life at the same time is proving to be a bit of a challenge. Not that I did not expect that but I am noticing where my priorities are. Or maybe where they are not is a better way to put it.

So far with work, home, family and even eating is going great. The physical exercise is where I am lacking all motivation. I am not giving up but I think I need to find something that is going to get me going and does not involve leaving home right now. The thought of sweating before I get to the gym because it is 110 degrees outside is bad enough.

If anyone has suggestions I am all ears.

Hello everyone. My name is Ann and I am very happy to be a participant in PCL's 10-10's for 2010. I am a single, working woman, mother of two grown daughters, and a grandmother of five wonderful grandchildren. I have long hours and don't like to think of myself as a workaholic but I can push the envelope on that one. Working a 4/10 schedule makes for a long day so I am trying to incorporate a balance into my life between work, family, home, and health. Working with the 10-10 group is hopefully just that boost I need to change gears toward that balance.

Well I didn't wake up in time to go to the gym today. I did manage to leave the office at 5:30 and made it home to make dinner to make that a total of 3 meals today= )I enjoyed being able to sit down to dinner with them but I don't think the family was to pleases though. I made everyone hustle to get the kitchen cleaned then off to bed after. So Mom was no fun tonight but is is nice to have a clean house! I feel a bit relaxed now. I am going to try for the gym again tomorrow.

OOPS! By the way the post prior to this was posted by Kim. I am technology challenged today.

I will fill everyone in on a few details now that we are four days into this and feel like I still need to get started. Elaborating on the workaholic thing for starters... I am co-owner of a marketing company that's primary focus is publishing a magazine. Though there are many other irons in the fire there as well. This brings us to my first goal: Leave the office early whenever possible. That is much harder than it sounds... I haven't accomplished it yet. I think just to leave by 5:30 will be my goal to start.

Next - fitness. I am not overweight. I could loose a few pounds and do some serious toning. Usually I work out when the urge hits me, not very often. My goal in this area is to work up to an hour of some sort of exercise five days a week... I haven't managed to accomplish one this week. I am going to set my alarm again for tomorrow morning.

Home & Family: Why is it that the people we love the most are the ones who suffer? My number one motivation for success is my children. Yet time and time again I have chosen to do something for work instead of hang out with them. I do need to work a lot. Now I have to remind myself to play as well. I WILL put at least one outing a week on my calendar where my phone is off and it is all family time. No one call, email or text this coming Sunday. My phone will be off! I am not failing at this one.

Healthy eating: I am not talking about granola... Yet. For starters I am trying not to skip meals. I can say for the first time all week, today I had three meals. To make it even better they were at reasonable hours. WOOO WHOO! I am going to sustain that for a week or so before talking about whether they were fried or not=) One step at a time.

Going to bed now so I can be in the gym at 6a.m. Good night All!

Hey Everyone,
My name is Cortney and I am a 21 year old wife, Lifestyles account executive, Massage Therapist and entreprenuer. I've been married for 2 years, and together we moved to Casa Grande from Idaho just over a year ago. I am very excited to participate in this wonderful program that is giving me the resources and support necessary to achieve my personal goals to better myself! I look forward to sharing my trials and triumphs and hopefully inspire you all to take the plunge and join us in our journey!

Hi team! This is going to be a great, wild and fabulous journey. At moments you'll love it, but like all coaching programs it will also be challenging (but hang in there because that is where the magic is!). Integrity and commitment are the only things you will need for this 6 month journey, so let's get started! All the participants will be 'journaling' here so you can follow their progress. You are invited to ask questions and watch their progress. This week is just about getting started then we will take on a different topic every 2 weeks.

My name is Kim. I am a 31 year old mother of two boys and a workaholic. I am excited about this program because I feel the need to improve in many aspects of my life. I believe by doing so I will find balance that I am currently lacking.

hi my name is jessica and i just wanted to say i am so excited to start the program. meeting everybody was nice and knowing that we all have goals we want to achieve is comforting to me.