by Jenn Kaye

 

Have you ever felt like everyone around you was just pulling your chain? That they were telling you what you wanted to hear, and yet not acting in alignment with what they said they were going to do or how they said something would be?

I was at a conference recently, and to be quite honest, it was beyond disappointing. For what they had said it was supposed to be, it wasn't. I hate that. And I was ticked. I tried going to all the scheduled events, and doing everything I "should" to make the most of the experience. At one point, I had simply had enough, and decided to take myself, and my journal to the atrium.

As I was writing, I realized just how much this experience reminded me of other times that I felt like people had let me down. Broken promises. Feeling used. Like I was in a one-way conversation. I was looking down as I wrote, and suddenly, I was inspired to simply look up. What I saw made me catch my breath. It was the most beautiful, silver, Moroccan chandelier I had ever seen. The detail was stunning. The sun was setting and the reflection of the sunset was casting an iridescent pink glow around the edges. It was like something out of Arabian Nights. And it had magic powers.

Because what happened next was that I stopped suffering in my disappointment, and started reveling in my appreciation.

The next time you feel disappointed or let down, try the following:

1. Get it Out.

Don't keep it inside your head where it has a chance to fester and then explodes later in a future conversation. Get it out on paper. Write it down and acknowledge your feelings in the situation.

2. Look Up.

Stop spinning in the negative emotions and "look up." Meaning, look around you - either your actual environment or your life. Notice what's really beautiful around you. Pay attention to the details of that beauty and let yourself really acknowledge what you see or experience.

3. Revel in Appreciation.

When we focus on the negative and communicate from that space, we rarely get the results we really want. When we can shift our language and emotions to a more positive feel (even if we still need to communicate a negative message), we are more powerful and get better results. To put yourself in that positive and powerful place, make a list of at least 20 things you're grateful for or appreciate in your life. This can be people, your family, your home, good health, your brilliance or expertise, etc.

Find the magic powers in your world stop suffering and start reveling. You will appreciate yourself more and your communications will reflect your mastery. Look up!!!

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