Is your life painfully predictable? Do you do the same routine, day in and day out? Does everyone know what to expect from you? Are you perfectly following a diet to lose that "ten pounds?" Have you smiled today? Are you having any fun in life? Could being more outrageous open you to more love?
When I was a consultant, my life fit into a tidy little box. Squeezing every ounce of spontaneity out of myself, I was the architect of my perfectly structured life, with little to anticipate. I had all these rules and boundaries; no one could cross them, not even myself. I never caused a wave; and I was rewarded for my perfectly boring behavior. God forbid I break outside the box once in awhile. Does any of this sound familiar?
My client Kelly was the perfect wife, Mom, and entrepreneur. She gave so much time and energy to her husband, children, and clients. She was ready to shake things up and have even more fun. And I'm not just talking about happy-go-lucky, Micky Mouse funwe're talking Vegas outrageous!
Having a crush on Barry Manilow since her childhood, Kelly had always wanted to see him in concert. For her "Outrageous Date" of her 30 Dates in 30 Days, Kelly fulfilled her dream. Giving her that gift inspired and empowered Kelly; she finally broke out of her box and did something she had always wanted to do. The next time I saw Kelly, she was beaming with delight and happiness. She found her smile again. She said it was the best day of her life. Opening to outrageous, opened her to more love.
Where are you on the outrageous continuum right nowfrom no fun at all to outrageously fun? Where do you want to be on the continuum? What is congruent with the authentic you? Are you living authentically? Did you used to be outrageously fun and now your life is a little too tidy to allow that wild side out?
We all have it in us ... unleash the fun you! Do something outrageous today! Take a risk today. Give yourself a dare and do it. Break a rule. Break a boundary.
"Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." Helen Keller
What is one thing you have always wanted to do and haven't ... yet? Dig deep. This is your opportunity to do it! Connect to your adventurous side. For the Cinderella's out there, that may mean staying up past midnight. For others, you not only need to stay up past midnightyou need to be dancing on the bar, the bar is in Rio, your Latin lover is doing body shots off your belly, you are wearing something completely daring, you're giggling in ecstasy, you spring for the 5-star hotel you have always dreamed of indulging in ...
Each woman has her own definition of what is fun and outrageous. For you, it could be singing on stage, or traveling internationally, or sleeping in until noon, or skydiving, or tasting Indian food, or playing hooky from work, or taking an African dance class, or going to New York City.
Now, I don't want to immediately send you into a tailspin. If you have always wanted to go on an African safari, I know you can't get the inoculations by today and be on the plane tonight. You will think grand. And you will make a plan. Make a promise to yourself. And do one thing toward your "Outrageous Date" today!
Are you having trouble coming up with your outrageous date? What teases and tantalizes you? What excites you? What scares you? What is predictable about you and how would you rather surprise yourself? Blow your own mind! What boundaries do you want to smash? What rules are you sick and tired of that are meant to be broken? (Rules, ladies, not laws). The idea is to unleash what is instinctively outrageous about you.
I had a client who took a stripper class. I saw Sara the day they were going to take off an item of clothing for the first time. She was a little leery of that idea ... and she did it anyway. Sara broke through her own boundaries and embraced her unbridled side.
"Feel the fear and do it anyway." Susan Jeffers
To me, riding a motorcycle was outrageous. During my 30 Dates in 30 Days and reconnecting with the real me, I followed through and it was a trip! I had so much fun! I was exhilarated and elated the first time I rode through the parking lot with my feet off the ground. And I was thrilled throttling through the turns. It connects me to my natural power. My box no longer exists. What a rush!
It is your turn to live on your personal edge.
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