1. Give up the idea of being in the mood or feeling emotionally satisfied as the impetus for intimate contact. Think of it, instead, as a health resource. There is no other physical act at our disposal that carries the physical, emotional and spiritual benefits of making love, especially with someone you love.
2. Make a commitment to find balance in your life- which is easier said than done. Our work/acquisition culture pays more lip service to family, relationships and health than it does actual time. When deciding between priorities ask yourself: "If this were my last day, what would I give my time to?" Even with my own business- work never comes up first.
3. Sustainable and growing love is able to hold the loveable and the annoying aspects of our nature side by side. Give up the pendulum swing in your relationship by expecting and being willing to live with what is challenging about loving someone.
4. Have more fun with the people you live with and love. Laugh at spilled milk, burned toast and breakfast for dinner. The most damaging things that happen in our relationships is not the actual things that happen, but how we relate to them and communicate about them. A sense of humor can add years to your ability to love someone.