Do you ever get jealous of other women? Have you ever shot down someone else to make yourself feel better? Is your significant other a jealous person? Have you ever done silly things to get attention?
"Jealousy is indeed a poor medium to secure love, but it is a secure medium to destroy one's self-respect."
Emma Goldman
Do you have any wounds from jealousy? I have the cure.
To begin, no one is doing jealousy to you. You are creating it yourself. You decide how you feel. If you see a beautiful woman and you react with pangs of insecurity, she did not do that to you; you decided to feel that way. The good news is since she is not doing it to you, you have the power to change. You have the power to be free of jealousy.
Jealousy is an indication and opportunity to come back to self. If your energy is being distracted by wanting what someone else has, or wishing to be that person, you need to value yourself more. Return to loving your unique, beautiful qualities. You can do the jealousy cure the moment it shows up.
Drum roll, please ... the jealousy cure is: the Empowering Question. This tool is very simple to use. What are your best qualities, what is fabulous and unique about you? Now you simply fill in your Empowering Question: How could I be even more [your three best qualities] right now? Ask your Empowering Question in the moment to be more of who you are in that moment. If you fall out of your powerful identity in a particular situation, your Empowering Question will snap you back into being the person you really want to be.
Maybe a coworker received the top salesperson award and you felt bitter and didn't congratulate her. Maybe your girlfriend told you she's engaged and it was hard to be happy for her. Maybe you were out with your husband and saw a stunning woman and you decided to feel ugly in her presence.
How would you like to have responded instead? Trust me, when you ask yourself your Empowering Question in that moment, you will have a very different reaction and outcome. When you ask yourself, "How could I be even more confident, graceful, and charming," your mind/body/spirit line up to support you. Your mind will come up with answers; your perspective will shift in the moment; you will embody your empowering qualities; and you will feel grounded again. You will return to the real you in the moment. And you will respond with confidence, grace, and charm.
Have fun with this tool! You will create an overall Empowering Question based on your three best qualities. You may also fill in the blank for particular situations. At work, ask yourself: how could I be even more innovative and assertive right now? If you're in the process of healing, ask yourself: how could I be even more compassionate and nurturing right now? In the bedroom, ask yourself: how could I be even more playful and passionate right now? You may use this question to bring forth any quality that may help you in the momentas long as it is in alignment with the real you.
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