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by Dena Patton
03/02/2010 01:20 am
Let's talk about your busy schedule and why you are on the brink of having the Superwoman Syndrome.
Without proper channels to alleviate stress women run the risk of developing physical and emotional side effects along with their family. These ailments include depression, sleep disorders, depression, addictions, migraines and heart disease, according to UCLA Study on Friendship Among Women. According to The American Heart and Stroke Association - one out of every four women die of heart disease. Heart disease is the number one killer of women and positive lifestyle choices is the number one preventative measure. Women love being Superwomen, but are you willing to learn the skills to steer clear of being an exhausted Superwoman to become a well-balanced Superwoman?
There's a myth about 'being busy' that it brings you value or that it makes you 'matter'. The truth is that you are 100% valuable and lovable right now! You matter to this world without overcrowding your schedule, saying yes to everyone, giving all your time, money and energy away, pushing yourself to exhaustion and pretending you can do it all alone. As busy women we need to watch how we manage our capacity (our energy, schedules and time) such that we can freely move from one role to the other, and even have moments each day/week to step out of our roles to reflect and relax. You want to steer clear of being an exhausted Superwoman, but instead become a well-balanced Superwoman. To do so there's three main things you'll start to incorporate into your life: Me Time, Friend Time and a Self-Care Plan and here's 10 ways to do that:
Dena Patton is The Boundaries Coach, Speaker and Entrepreneur. Read the rest of her articles by clicking her name (top/right of this page). She is also the founder of this website/company (Chat, Chew and Chocolate Worldwide), which helps busy women lead balanced, full and fun lives. Information on her speaking, retreats and coaching click here. Stay connected with her on Twitter @chatchew. Need help implementing these ideas in your life or business? Call her for one-on-one coaching.
Without proper channels to alleviate stress women run the risk of developing physical and emotional side effects along with their family. These ailments include depression, sleep disorders, depression, addictions, migraines and heart disease, according to UCLA Study on Friendship Among Women. According to The American Heart and Stroke Association - one out of every four women die of heart disease. Heart disease is the number one killer of women and positive lifestyle choices is the number one preventative measure. Women love being Superwomen, but are you willing to learn the skills to steer clear of being an exhausted Superwoman to become a well-balanced Superwoman?
There's a myth about 'being busy' that it brings you value or that it makes you 'matter'. The truth is that you are 100% valuable and lovable right now! You matter to this world without overcrowding your schedule, saying yes to everyone, giving all your time, money and energy away, pushing yourself to exhaustion and pretending you can do it all alone. As busy women we need to watch how we manage our capacity (our energy, schedules and time) such that we can freely move from one role to the other, and even have moments each day/week to step out of our roles to reflect and relax. You want to steer clear of being an exhausted Superwoman, but instead become a well-balanced Superwoman. To do so there's three main things you'll start to incorporate into your life: Me Time, Friend Time and a Self-Care Plan and here's 10 ways to do that:
10 Tips for Creating Boundaries
Below are my top 10 tips to create
boundaries in your life and career that
will bring more balance, ease and joy into your life:
- Honor yourself by managing your capacity (i.e. setting realistic limits and saying "no" often).
- Use your career as a platform to give your gifts, spirit and love away to others.
- Create a self-care plan, and stick to it. If you are unhealthy, your career and marriage will be also.
- Simplify. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful, loving or joyful. (Physical clutter and emotional clutter will stop you from creating your dream life).
- Be careful not to get consumed by your roles (i.e., parent, career, board member etc). Step out of your roles daily for 10 minutes for meditation, prayer, inventory check for red flags.
- Be intentional in keeping yourself balanced, healthy and happy. Know what brings you those things and do that on a regular basis.
- Be your biggest fan, not your enemy.
- People won't honor your boundaries just 'because'. You must honor your boundaries first, and then others will follow.
- Create more play (at work, at home, in your marriage) . Laughing is important.
- Surround yourself with people who empower and honor you.
"Because we don't know what is really important to us, everything seems important. Because everything seems important, we have to do everything. Other people, unfortunately, see us as doing everything, so they expect us to do everything. Doing everything keeps us so busy, we don't have time to think about what is really important." -Anonymous
Dena Patton is The Boundaries Coach, Speaker and Entrepreneur. Read the rest of her articles by clicking her name (top/right of this page). She is also the founder of this website/company (Chat, Chew and Chocolate Worldwide), which helps busy women lead balanced, full and fun lives. Information on her speaking, retreats and coaching click here. Stay connected with her on Twitter @chatchew. Need help implementing these ideas in your life or business? Call her for one-on-one coaching.
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