How do I find a man? You don't.
Have you been searching for that special someone and you just can't seem to find him? Are you worried you're looking in the wrong places for Mr. Right?
The bad news is, you're not going to find him. So, stop looking. The good news is, there is a much better way.
One of my clients was frustrated the other night. She just wanted to meet someone. That was her first mistake. When you are willing to settle, you attract Mr. Wrong (or no one at all). During her love coaching session, she asked me what she should do. She was quite taken aback by my answer to, "Stop looking."
When I asked my client about her "pattern of dating," she described "lost men." Do you remember the movie, The Lost Boys? The guys she dated could have starred in that movie. They don't know who they are or what they want. Unfortunately, when my client came to me, neither did she.
I believe you need to be the love of your life in order to attract the love of your life. Unfortunately, she doesn't know who she is or what she wants yet, so she hasn't attracted him. If you want to be in a happy fulfilled relationship, you need to be complete on your own first.
What is love? My definition of self-love is completely accepting the authentic you and being your truth. In other words, accept the real you and be who you really are. No false advertising. Therefore, love between two people is completely accepting the other person for who they are and receiving their truth. (You don't have to agree with them, just receive them).
Like attracts like. It is very attractive to know who you are, what you want, and stand in your truth. So, how do you do that?
To begin, answer the question, on a scale from one to ten, one being you hate yourself and ten being you completely love yourself, where are you today?
If you are not a ten, if you do not completely love yourself, stop looking. In order to attract Mr. Right, you need to be Mrs. Right. And Mrs. Right is simply the happy, fulfilled, real you.
Now, how do you find her?
Have you seen the movie, Yes Man, with Jim Carrey? Whether or not you are a fan, the basic premise is a positive one. Say Yes to You! This is the essence of my 30 Dates in 30 Days system to get what you want in love.
Get to know the real you and accept her for who she is. What is fascinating and mysterious about you? What is quirky about you? What do you really like to do? Woo you! Do one thing you love every day. Treat yourself like the beautiful, special woman you are. And you will attract a man who does the same.
I was on one of my 30 Dates in 30 Days. When I wasn't looking, the love of my life came up to me, introduced himself, kissed me, took my number, called me that night, and it has been beautiful love ever since! Stop looking.
BYLINE: Do you want to attract "him?" To get what you want in love, I invite you to take yourself on 30 Dates in 30 Days. If you would like some help, check out my ebook as your guide: https://www.tashathelovecoach.com/Shopping/2.html
LOVE TIP:
1. Ask yourself: on a scale from one to ten, one being I hate myself to 10 being I completely love myself, where am I today?
2. If you are not a ten, Stop Looking.
3. Take yourself on 30 Dates in 30 Days, getting to know the real you and doing one thing you love every day.
