Are you ready for some serious girl talk? Do you have friends who fake orgasm? Have you ever faked it? You know you've had the conversation before, whether it was over coffee or martinis. Starting out innocent, you and the girls talk about the guys you are dating ... the conversation eventually leads to whether or not size matters and whether or not he knows what he is doing. If any of your friends admit they pretend they are done before they are done (orgasm), shake your finger at them and say, Stop faking it!
It is important to deliver the message to our sisters and band together. Point being (and this is a broad generalization) men usually quit once they have achieved the goal: giving you an orgasm. So when women fake it, they are teaching the men to give up too soon.
Why in the world would we let a man think we are done when we are just medium rare? That is just crazy. We teach people how to treat us. Every time we let a man think he has succeeded, and he has not, we are just conditioning him to think that amount of effort is satisfactory. If we allow the trend to continue, sex will diminish from a 7-course meal to fast food every time. The next time you have coffee or martinis with the girls, spread the word: Stop faking it!
At the same time, we have no right to complain that a man is not good in bed, until we are good in bed. A woman has the exact sex life she wants. I believe the woman is ultimately responsible for her orgasm. Do you want to have a mind-blowing orgasm? Are you willing to take responsibility in order to get it? This is your Love Homework for tonight: be your best lover and give yourself an orgasm.
I have helped many women create awesome orgasms ... by talking to them about it and suggesting some tools. Who said power tools were just for men? Fire up the power tools, ladies! It is time to get to know you on an intimate level. Some of you may already be very good at giving yourself the gift; practice makes perfect.
Are you willing to spend hours on yourselfwooing and seducing you, and creating orgasm? Would you like the buildup to include majestic candles; sexy lingerie; fine wine and food; delicious conversation; strawberries and champagne; a bubble bath; gazing at the stars; caressing every inch of your body; kissing yourself; telling yourself how beautiful you are; then using your hands, toys, and power tools? Other times, it may be quick and dirty because you need a release.
Sex. It starts with you. If you want a quality sex life, there is one way to guarantee it: be your best lover. Today, you will give yourself the gift of orgasm. If you like warm-up, give yourself warm-up. If you like to involve food, go to the grocery store and get your favorite supplies ... and "you can leave your hat on." If you like champagne and bubble baths, pop the cork and start the faucet. If you are into fantasies, find a fireman hat and hose. Whatever does it for you, just do it for you. Tomorrow you will have a Cheshire grin and your own little secret. Sweet dreams and orgasms!
Byline: For more help with the "Big O," check out Chapter 8 in Tasha The Love Coach's ebook and start attracting a fantastic lover today: https://www.tashathelovecoach.com/Shopping/140.html