by Jenn Kaye

 

We often use "burnout" to express our feelings of fatigue, prolonged stress, overwork and frustration, which often happens during the holidays. Face it, you're trying to do all the right things to make everyone else happy - at work, at home, in your relationship, with your in-laws, your family ... it can be downright exhausting!

It doesn't have to be that way. One of the greatest gifts our current economy has given us (and yes, I said "gift") is the opportunity to get back to the basics. To remember what the important stuff is in our lives, cut out the excess and reconnect with ourselves - and our relationshipts- in simpler, more meaningful ways. This holiday season, try some of the following to prevent burnout, manage the stress and rejuvenate your spirit:

1. Perspective

Stress and pressure this time of year often arises because of pressure and expectations (from others, and moreso ourselves) and taking on too many responsibilities. Knock it off and cut yourself some slack. The holidays are "supposed" to be a time of celebration - for friends and families to get together to share time, food, fun, gifts and love. A time of giving, receiving, caring and connection - to celebrate meaningful events ... together.

2. Say "No" to Just One Thing

You don't have to feel overextended, underappreciated or taken advantage of. If you don't create your own boundaries, no one else will be able to respect them. Practice saying "no" to just one thing. Whether it's baking another 12 dozen cookies (and you'll have to stay up all night to do it) or compromising on your favorite traditions. It's not bad karma, it's called Self-Care.

3. Go for Quality instead of Quantity

Create quality experiences for yourself and those you care for. Instead of attending 50 holiday parties and feeling like you have to put on a show, expend more energy and end up feeling exhausted, pick your top 3-5 and spend quality time there. Same thing for gifts - remind your children that the holidays are just as much about being together and experiencing tradition - as it is about the 'stuff.'

4. Plan Accordingly

So the entire family will be descending upon the house soon. Give yourself the space to retreat when you need to, and be SURE to create some alone time with your spouse. If everyone is used to you waiting on them hand and foot, tell them there is a new system this year and give them instructions for managing on their own. If you plan things ahead of time, they'll get used to it. Stop taking the world on and plan time for you.