by Jenn Kaye

 

In Part I we gathered information to help you help you identify the language you use in your life. In Part II, we are going to show you how to start making your language work for you.

The truth is, we're all multi-lingual. We speak the language of mother, daughter, grandmother, wife, single woman. We speak the language of employee, of executive, of corporate America; we speak the language of entrepreneur, consultant. We speak the language of heath and wellness or we speak the language of illness and disease. We speak the language of love, compassion and understanding or we speak the language of blame, shame, guilt and resentment.

Our communication constantly reflects the language we are speaking in our lives. The thoughts we have, the emotions we use and the words we say. While that may seem daunting at the moment, relax. We were never taught these things in school, so how else would we know? In school we were taught how to look outside of ourselves, externally, for validation. We would take our test and hand it in to the teacher who would then say we did a good job, or often, "You're a smart girl. You can do better." The external programming is that we're always just short of the mark.

Had they taught us in school how to handle test anxiety so that rather than feeling nervous we could feel confident, or how to feel worthy when we were picked last for the team, or how to communicate when our best friend started hanging out with someone else, we would indeed have the tools we needed much better to handle our lives.

Let's go back to the list you made in Part I.

1. Look at the phrases with the checkmarks next to them. See what you can do to flip those statements around into a more positive spin. If you get stuck, take a moment and reflect on all the good things in your life. Write down at least 3-5 things you're grateful for. (It can be something as simple as a beautiful sunset, getting the kids to school on time, being grateful for your health, etc.)

2. Rewrite the statement in a positive way. (Note: when you find yourself starting to say the old phrase, catch yourself and use the new statement). Our words have power and can affect our mental, emotional and physical states. By flipping this around you are already making your language work FOR you.

3. Once you have rewritten the statement. Cross the old sentence out. This was the way you used to speak. You are choosing new, more powerful language starting right now.

4. Go back to the sentences or phrases with a star by them that made you feel good. Circle each one and speak them more often.

It's YOUR life. Give yourself permission to start Living the Language of Your Life and your sense of self, joy and appreciation will expand exponentially.

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