Have you ever broken your promises to yourself? Have you ever let yourself down? Have you actually stood yourself up, for something you committed to? A long time ago, when I was loathing instead of loving myself, I broke many promises.
So many new beginnings, so little time. I keep making these empty promises to myself. If I can't be true to myself ... --old journal entry
Because I had broken countless promises in the past, I did not trust myself to follow through going forward. This prevented me from loving myself and, therefore, being open to love from another.
THE MORAL OF THE STORY IS ...
When you keep your promises to yourself, you will get what you want.
THE PRINCIPLE TO IMPLEMENT IS ...
Make one promise to you today and keep it.
Keeping your promises to yourself is a huge gesture to you. It definitely says, "I love you." Think about it. Have you ever had a man who actually called when he said he would call, show up on time, and take you out when he said he would take you out? Didn't you feel appreciated? Didn't you feel at least a little special, if not a lot? Did it develop trust between you and the man? Do it for yourself! Make yourself feel special. Create trust with you. (As a bonus, it will teach others how to treat you).
How will keeping your promises benefit you?
A. You won't stand yourself up for your dates.
B. Other people won't stand you up for dates.
C. You will develop the habit of keeping your promises to you and follow through on what you want.
D. You will trust yourself even more, which turns into
E. Faith.
"Faith is trust made eternal." Anthony Robbins
Integrity is keeping your promises. To successfully build integrity with myself in the area of health, I made realistic promises I knew I could keep. To start out, I only promised to go to Pilates once per week; walk once per week; and drink four glasses of water per day. When I actually followed through on those promises, I had integrity because I did what I said I would. I trusted myself to take it to the next level. I bumped up my program one notch every two weeks. When I made being healthy about simple promises, I followed through. In turn, that built my integrity, trust, and ultimately faith, and I released 46 pounds.
Take baby steps and gradually step it up to build integrity, trust, and faith in you, for whatever you desire. The source of self-loathing for 71% of the women I work with is body-related. For those of you free of this form of loathing, bless you. Translate this example to the area you need to build integrity. Maybe you need to build integrity in taking yourself on one date per day for 30 days; give yourself great love and the man in your life, or the man who will be in your life, will give you great love. Because I did the work and built trust with myself, I attracted an amazing man with unwavering principle, trust, and honor; we share a beautiful love.
Trust this process. Walk your talk. Set yourself up to win in whatever you want. Healthy integrity is the answer. Make new, realistic promises to yourself that you will follow through on. Make sure your agreements are in alignment with who you are and what you want your life to be about. Build trust with yourself ... and you will have trust with "him" (current or future boyfriend, partner, or husband). And enjoy getting what you want in the process. Decide one promise you will make to yourself today and love yourself enough to keep it.
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LOVE TIP: Keep Your Promises ... to You
1. Answer the question: what do you want?
2. Decide one small step toward getting what you want.
3. Make a promise to yourself to make that small step and love yourself enough to keep your promise.
BONUS QUESTION: "I believe when I keep my promises to myself, I will get what I want." Do you agree or disagree with that statement and why?
