Did you see the movie, He's Just Not That Into You? Did you agree with the advice from the bartender? Did you see yourself in any of the characters? Are you the "exception" or the "rule?"
The good news is that it doesn't matter. I read the book and thought it was brilliant and quite liberating. I was going through some bad-boy bullshit at the time and got the courage to 'Just Say No,' to his drunk dialing. The male author inspired me with his sage words, "Don't waste the pretty."
I believe there is a chance to take the premise one step further. Back to the bad-boy, when I dug a little deeper, and actually asked him why he was blowing me off, he said he didn't think he was good enough for me. Since then, I have heard countless cases of this inadequacy epidemic. I had a revelation: He's just not that into HIMSELF.
I'm here to help and demystify the myth. In the book, they break it down into very neat and easy rules, letting you know when he's just not that into you. *(Please note, I changed the wording from "He's just not that into you" to "He's just not that into himself)," because that is the truth. The following are the rules from the book and my corresponding Love Tips:
1. He's just not that into himself if he's not asking you out.
LOVE TIP: Ask yourself out. He doesn't like himself right now, so he would probably treat you like crap. Treat yourself the way you are meant to be treated ... and the next guy you date will do the same. What would you love to do and where would you love to do it?
2. He's just not that into himself if he's not calling you.
LOVE TIP: Set your phone call standard. When I was single, I rejected the guys who used the "three-day-rule." I wouldn't date him if he waited that long to call me, after meeting me. The love of my life called me the night he met me. What is your standard?
3. He's just not that into himself if he's not dating you.
LOVE TIP: Date yourself. Plan a fabulous date for you and ask yourself out three days in advance. At the time of the date, put your party dress on (or your favorite jeans), turn your cell phone off, and adore you ... and the next guy you date will do the same.
4. He's just not that into himself if he's not having sex with you.
LOVE TIP: Have sex with yourself. Take responsibility for your sex life. Be your best lover and give yourself a mind-blowing orgasm ... and you will attract a fantastic lover.
5. He's just not that into himself if he's having sex with someone else.
LOVE TIP: Dump him now!
6. He's just not that into himself if he only wants to see you when he's drunk.
LOVE TIP: Be #1. Don't be second best to beer.
7. He's just not that into himself if he doesn't want to marry you.
LOVE TIP: Listen and learn. Men tell you at the beginning exactly who they are. If they say, "I'm not the marrying type," believe them and run.
8. He's just not that into himself if he's breaking up with you.
LOVE TIP: 'Just Say No' to breakup sex! No matter how good it is. And remember, when you see him, choose classy over crazy.
9. He's just not that into himself if he's disappeared on you.
LOVE TIP: Ritual it Right. Burn his picture, his smelly t-shirt, whatever will give you satisfaction and closure, because he's too much of a coward to give it to you.
10. He's just not that into himself if he's married (and other insane variations of not being available).
LOVE TIP: Be a good girl to your fellow girls. Leave unavailable men alone. Karma is a bitch.
11. He's just not that into himself if he's a selfish jerk, a bully, or a really big freak.
LOVE TIP: You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. Let him go now. You will attract someone who will treat you like the beautiful woman you are.
"Don't waste the pretty."
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