by Jenn Kaye

 

I was recently in a local caf in Phoenix with a girlfriend talking about the elements of a relationship through the context of dancing Argentine Tango. As we finished our meal, our server (a seriously beautiful & hip woman with a slight accent) came over and instead of asking if we were "done" or "finished" or if we wanted anything else, before she even reached for our plates she simply stood there, smiled and asked, "Are you satisfied?"

Admittedly, I had to pause for a moment. I had to make sure I understood her correctly ... "Pardon me?" I replied. "Are you satisfied?" she calmly repeated. I did an internal analysis of my stomach and hunger, considered her question carefully and answered with a resounding, "Yes! Why, yes I am."

And then, of course, I thought about what a seriously powerful question that really is. As women I believe many of us are hard-wired for constant growth and evolution. We strive to improve ourselves, our lives and our relationships. When, however, do we stop to acknowledge our efforts? When do we feel "satisfied?" (Seriously, wherever you want to go with you that, please do so!) Because of our insatiable desire to experience life fully, let's face it, we can be hard to satisfy! In life, in relationships ... even in the bedroom.

The way she asked this simple question, however, was such a positive setup. When I ask myself the question, "Am I satisfied," more often than not my response would simply be, "No, of course not." However, by her asking me the question I thought about my experience in a totally different way.

As a communications expert, I thought about what we experience at the end of any activity. When we are 'done or finished' there is an ending. We know that we will be departing the person we may be dining with, ending an experience of being with someone together ... there may often be a deep sigh as we return to the world of everything we have to do once we are finished. When we are 'satisfied,' it may only be for that moment, however there is a positive uplift to one's attitude and an ongoing possibility of future experiences to enjoy.

Have some fun and practice using this phrase. The responses you receive may surprise you!

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